What should I do if the girl cheated?
Posted: Sun Jul 18, 2021 7:19 pm
Did your girlfriend cheat on you? I'm sorry! But don't try to suffer! Don't try to make a scandal for her! Do not try to shed tears and let out snot, and ask her why she did this to you! Remember that you are a man, you are a warrior, you are a winner, you are the stronger sex, after all! So you have to be strong! How can any female [belittle her status for yourself to minimize the feeling of loss], and since she has cheated on you, it is difficult to call her a person, so we will call her a female, break you? Come on, it's not appropriate for you to mess with such a petty problem – have pride, remember your strength of spirit, your masculine qualities and just step over an unworthy female who allowed herself to do this to you. Do you think that this is difficult to do? Your heart is broken, and your soul is blackened, and you can't just forget about treason? Well, then let's try to understand better what a girl's infidelity is and how to survive it.
First of all, let's find out why they, girls, women, cheat on their men? You know, I would not like to write about all sorts of instincts and the natural essence of a woman right now, I have written about this in detail in other articles. I'll just say that the tendency to change is part of a woman's nature. And our, male, by the way, too. We, too, are still scoundrels, not all, of course, but many. We deceive and betray women, we give them great pain and suffering, and after that we still somehow live, we somehow manage to look at ourselves in the mirror. Still, whatever you say, but in this sense we are worse than women – we, men, cause women much more suffering than they do to us. But to our credit-we are not all like that. They, women, by the way, too. But that's not what we're talking about right now. The point is that in our human nature, the tendency to treason is very tightly entrenched, and only our mind is able to curb it. So that's what I'm all about. And to the fact that if a girl cheated on you, it does not mean that you are not like that, that something is wrong with you, that you are a bad male and all that. So put all such thoughts and their derivatives out of your head. You can be, and I am sure that you are, quite a normal man, a normal kid who did everything for his girlfriend, but... what happened happened. Yes, they still cheat on us, no matter how cool we are. Why? Yes, because they are simply drawn to new sensations, to pleasure, to emotional experiences, to something new, not necessarily better, but simply new. For them, it's like buying a damn purse in a store, she just liked a woman and therefore was bought by her. So things are the same with treason-she wanted to – she took and changed. In general, the whole point here is in the absence of a correct, and in our case – traditional upbringing, in the absence of a correct, that is, again, a traditional value system, and simply in the lack of brains of a girl who cheated on you without thinking about the consequences of her act. Well, you know, passion, feelings, emotions, curbed her poor head. And the consequences, here are some, and perhaps many women, girls, think about them, of course, later. And very often, many of them, realizing and feeling these consequences, regret what they have done. After all, often after their betrayal, they lose more, much more than the one to whom they cheated. So your girlfriend, having cheated on you, will most likely lose you, right? Will it make her feel better? Is unknown.
So here is such a simple reason, one can even say, a primitive motivation, like that of the most ordinary female, pushes a woman to change. Well, the mind does not always cope with internal urges, you know yourself. How often can we curb our " I want” and do it the right way? That's it. And what did you want, if the consumer attitude to life and a thoughtless lifestyle have become part of our culture, then all the higher values are simply not perceived by people. And in some cases, they are even ridiculed. Here I personally read on Internet forums how some women ridiculed women's decency and honesty, claiming that it is much more profitable to be a lying b**ch, that decency and honesty are not needed by anyone. Here you are, dear reader-do you need decent and honest people, in particular women, girls? I think we need them. But some women claim that they are not needed. That's the kind of culture we have today, everything is mixed up in it. But in general, I think that this culture is backward. When pleasure is above all, and honor, honesty, conscience, respect, decency, loyalty, love, become the subject of ridicule, and some people do not understand these things at all, it turns out that we simply reap what we sowed. Culture makes us people, and we have it, you can see for yourself, in what state. So it wasn't the girl who cheated on you – the product of this culture changed you. However, there are girls with a good upbringing and quite a decent system of values, so we will not row everyone under the same comb. Let's move on to the next question.
What should I do about it? I mean treason. Well, what do you do if you come across a defective thing – you probably change it. Here and here, if you think that you deserve the best, or rather, the best girl, then you are looking for this best girl, and let your cheater go on all four sides. After all, your girlfriend is only conditionally yours, on the terms of your agreement with her, so to speak, and even a legal marriage does not give you the right to dispose of your partner's life to the full. In this sense, our culture, thank God, takes into account the interests of the individual. Therefore, if a person does not suit you, change him. And there is no need for unnecessary conversations. Is it possible to replace a person? Can. If this person does not appreciate you, if there is nothing sacred and nothing valuable for you left in him, so to speak, then what kind of person is this, in the sense of what kind of person is this? Well, what problems are there to replace the one that made a thing of itself? Really? Do not be upset because someone did not appreciate you and did not meet your expectations. If you saw something more in a person than he really is, is it that person's fault? Well, do not expect from the apple tree that it will begin to bear fruit with cherries. Of course, certain conclusions need to be drawn from this, after all, the girl's infidelity could have happened, including through your fault. Allow the possibility that you are also guilty of something. Just don't ask your girlfriend – what is your fault. This is a stupid question, in fact. You are unlikely to get a truthful answer to it, you will most likely hear a lie with which the girl will want to justify herself. To understand what your fault may be in what happened, you need to objectively look at the whole situation as a whole, in the context of your entire life together with this girl, which is very difficult to do under the influence of emotions, that is, yourself. Ask your friends for help, if they are smart, and if you have them at all, I mean real friends, not so-so friends. Or even better-contact a psychologist for help. Explain everything to him properly, in all the details, so to speak, and he will put everything in its place for you, that is, he will help you look at your situation from the outside and understand its regularity. This, in turn, will allow you to understand what role you played in what happened to you, and, accordingly, to correct everything that you need to correct yourself in order to prevent a repeat of such a situation in the future. By the way, a psychologist will also help you with this.
You know, friends, after all, as life shows, and at the same time my experience of solving such problems, many girls, having changed their boyfriend, often sincerely repent of their act. But they realize all the abomination and stupidity of this act in full, mainly when they face unfavorable consequences for them, when they lose their man because of this. Well, this is typical for people, especially for women, who are mostly influenced by emotions, so they do not always know what they are doing. After all, as they say, we do not keep what we have, and when we lose it, we cry. In general, we are short-sighted creatures. Not all of us, of course, but some of us really can't foresee the consequences of our actions. This does not mean that some people are not capable of this in principle, it means that they are not trained in this. If a girl has not been taught that before doing something, you need to think about what will follow, then she does not think. And you know what, sometimes, sometimes, a girl's infidelity can be forgiven. Yes, I understand that it is not appropriate for a man to forgive such things, but it can still be done. They, girls, sometimes get smarter, after such a negative experience, and then they never change. I'm telling you for sure, there are such cases and there are quite a few of them. You just understand that some people can learn something only from their own experience. But the main thing is that they can learn something, it's very good. That's why I say that you can forgive a girl for cheating if she really realized her mistake and sincerely repented of her act. And we are all wrong. Well, now, all of us are on the block because of this to lead. Here, of course, you need to analyze the girl properly to understand whether her infidelity was a mistake, and in general she is not inclined to such actions, or she is a chronic cheater who can no longer be re-educated. And based on this, it is already possible to make a decision – to forgive her or not. Of course, if you still have feelings for her, if you love her, then it makes sense to understand all this. And if the feelings have died completely, well, then you need to look for a replacement for this girl. It is not necessary to suffer, it is necessary to act, it is necessary to start a new life.