for me, the solution was build up. When i fired up fast, I burned out fast, too, or couldn't get the cnadle burning, if you know what I mean. but then I wondered - if foreplay for at least 20 minutes does so much for women (my wife definitely loves it) maybe it'll do somthing for me,, too? guess what - it did. we got a
remote vibrator and she got on switching those modes the moment I stepped out of the door in the morning. that was the first day, the first experiemnt, and it was the first time in almost 17 years when I came home from work and we got busy - for at least an hour!! it was unbelievable!